Catholic Teachings - O'Brien: Children need love

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Children need love, especially when they don't deserve it. As a mother, my job is to take care of the possible and trust God with the impossible. A child may not hear what you say, but he watches what you do. You will build no great cathedral but daily you form souls. A mother has the most important job on earth. A mother finds out what is meant by a spitting image when she tries to feed her baby cereal. If you want your child to accept your values as a teenager, you must give him good example when he or she is young. When we meet life with laughter, our children will have a sense of humor. A happy childhood is a great gift that parents give. A mother's selfless love surpasses understanding. People who say they sleep at night like a baby are people who don't have one. Of all the rights of women, the greatest is to be a mother. Children are a great comfort in your old age, and they help you reach it faster. Motherhood is a partnership with God. Children are the hands by which we take hold of heaven. Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do, but doesn't get you anywhere. If you do not pray, it is useless to make your child pray. If you are only half-convinced of your faith, children quickly know this.

--Star Magazine; 2501 E. Yampa St., Colorado Springs, CO 80909

And what shall we say about those legions of women who have, who are and who will sacrifice their own dreams of marriage in order to pay their parents' doctor bills and their siblings' tuition,? Shall we forget their generous contributions to families who are destitute and except for those valiant women would not be worrying about a college education but would be wondering where the next meal was coming from? Or crying because there was no money for medicines, or clothes to warm a baby or some way to pay for a coffin? Are these selfless women not mothers? They have never borne a child. Or -- symbolically - could they be, in the judgment of the One who knows all things, receive from Him the name of mother because in a secret judgment they decided to take the high ground by saying "I love. Thy will be done. Do with me according to Thy providence."

Let us remember to send them a remembrance on their day - Mothers' Day. And ask Mary, the mother of Jesus, to bless them. An old Mexican blessing: May God treat you as He treated Juan Diego and may the holy Virgin of Guadalupe sit you on her lap and bounce you on her knee as she keeps you wrapped warmly in her poor woman's shawl. Greater love has no man than he who lays down his life for a friend. These valiant women continually lay down their lives for those they know and love and love those whom they will never know now. But later...

--April 28, 2000